What is Life Coaching? And what's Mindset Coaching?
Here's what you need to know.
What is Life Coaching?
Often, people get “stuck” on their journey through life and they don’t know why, and they can’t figure out how to get “unstuck”.
Being “stuck” is a feeling that life sucks, but you can’t see a way to change it for the better. If a person stays in that state for too long it can deepen into anxiety and depression. The cure for "stuckness" is action, and as a Coach I can help you to figure out what action to take and how to start taking it.
When you become free from FUD (Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt) then there is nothing holding you back from achieving fulfilment in your life.
When you work with me as your Coach I'll guide you toward attaining that freedom. If you really want positive, lasting change in your life, you'll need a new forward-looking, success-oriented mindset. I'll help you to figure out what that looks like, and how to implement it in your life.
It’s an inconvenient truth that a person’s answers are to be found where they least want to look for them. I can help by (gently!) guiding you to dig in the dark places and ask the difficult questions without whose answers real progress would be impossible.
Fear of failure is a major reason why people don’t set goals for themselves. If you have no goal, you can’t fail to reach it! More importantly, perhaps, other people won’t see that you have failed, so fear of failure might be better explained as fear of other people’s opinions and judgments. As your Coach, I’ll help you to be more confident in who you are so that you don’t feel so pressured to meet other people’s expectations. Fear of Other People’s Opinions (FOPO) is a major driver of unhappiness in the world today, and as your Coach I can help you to free yourself from it.
I'll hold you to account for the commitments you make to your own personal development. One of the major challenges you'll have to overcome on your journey of personal development is procrastination. Just knowing that I'm going to ask, “did you do that?” will often be enough to encourage you to carry through with your commitments to yourself.
I'll set you on your own path to personal fulfilment in your life. As a Coach, I won't assess your situation and then give you advice on what you should do. “Should” is the least helpful word in the English language! My job is to help you to fully understand yourself and your situation, so that you can decide what you want to do to improve things. I know that you don’t just bring me your questions and your problems, you also bring me your answers and your solutions. I'll help you to dig within and find those answers and solutions for yourself.
I offer guidance when course corrections are needed, when you, speeding confidently toward your greatest life vision, meet a bend in the road. I won’t tell you what to do, I'll just pick you up, dust you off, and help you to get back on track.
What is a Mindset?
A “mindset” is defined as a mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to, and interpretations of, the situations in which they find themselves. It’s a habitual way of thinking, and includes entrenched attitudes and fixed opinions.
If we accept the argument that most people have the potential to live a fulfilled life and that the only obstacles holding us back are self-inflicted then it follows that the way to achieve it is to replace a “stuck,” negative, inflexible mindset with something more positive, creative and growth-oriented.
What is Mindset Coaching?
A recent development in Life Coaching, Mindset Coaching takes the coaching process to a deeper level, examining in detail the Client’s attitudes to their life to discover the beliefs, behaviours, habits and ways of thinking that block them from achieving what they want. Often these blocks are so deeply rooted that exposing them, understanding them and replacing them with a more positive and constructive mindset cannot happen if the coaching process focuses merely on an intellectual, “head-centred” conversation.
Mindset Coaching helps the Coach and the Client to gain deep insight into how the Client thinks, feels, and interacts with the world. With that insight, it becomes possible to shift perception, develop a new mindset, and make lasting, positive change in the Client’s life.
How is Coaching different from Counselling or Therapy?
Counsellors and Therapists generally help with diagnosis and treatment of mental health issues. Coaches don’t do this. Coaches are not mental healthcare practitioners and we do not allow ourselves to be drawn into attempting to diagnose or treat such conditions. If during our conversation it appears that you are grappling with a mental health condition, or indeed any other kind of health condition, then I will refer you to a healthcare professional. In the first instance this will generally be your doctor; a GP is trained to recognise mental health issues and can refer you on to an appropriate practitioner.
If you are in therapy for any mental health issue, you must inform me before we commence a coaching program. Being in therapy does not necessarily mean that you can't be coached, but we must be sure that the coaching process supports and is complementary to the therapy that you're receiving.